One of the things I enjoy is to engage with young women. So, once a quarter, I host a "Girls Lunch with Dr Lulu". We sit, eat, talk, question, laugh, and share experiences about life in general.
My Personal Reflections: Lulu Gwagwa
I have never been more convinced about correctness of focusing the Girls Lunch on the INNER SELF, than I was on Saturday. Internship and mentorship programmes are very important for young women. But they are all based on the assumption that the inner self is firm, solid and fertile to receive and absorb the learnings. The reality though is that for most young black women this is not the case. This creates a gap between where these young women are (BEING) and what is expected of them (DOING). Listening to Dr Mara Mberira this weekend was an aha moment for me. I could clearly see self-doubt, imposter syndrome and fear of failure simmering and festering in this gap. We owe it to our young women to raise their awareness and to retool them so that they better able to do the required inner self work to close this gap between BEING and DOING. This allows young black women to reimagine themselves and to engage the external world with a confident authenticity.
Virtual Lunch, June 06, 2020
Saturday’s Lunch was a real treat in so many ways!
You know when you feel really stretched? That’s how I felt many times on Saturday. In some instances, I didn’t even understand the terminology. And that’s when I knew I was on a steep learning curve. But you know what? I consciously chose to open my mind, to learn. I chose to open my toolbox and add new tricks rather than to lock it. I remembered the wise saying that “deep and transformational growth comes from discomfort”. Over the last few months, I have also learnt that it helps to recognise the discomfort, name it and then ask myself the questions. What a liberating feeling! Try it.
I was amazed at how much Zinzi kept coming back to the importance of the relationship with SELF. Right from the beginning she invited us to “take back our power”. Remember that? As I was reflecting on the Lunch it became clear to me that I need to do more to take back ALL of my power, including my emotions, my energy, my body, and my mind. I am now challenging you to reflect deeply on what IS true to and about me, not what others deem SHOULD be true to and for you.
And by the way, in our check-in group, there was an aha moment. We concluded that not all questions are there to be answered. Sometimes just stay with the question. Allow it to just keep stirring you deep inside. From that stirring (if you let it go deep enough) new and more expansive possibilities might just emerge.
Enkosi Zinzi Faba!
My Energy is My Power!
“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind - you are the one who hears it.”
Who am I? The yearning to take time and understand how diverse my abilities extend to and what I can do. But before that can take place, we need to really understand who we are and where we want to be.
If there was anything fitting, for a time like this, I would choose the Girls Lunch in a heartbeat. We often do not think that we need coaching, guidance, or wisdom to protect our path in life, whilst growing up as a young lady, but we do. Rather the acknowledgement of the lamp, to light the path, than complete darkness, assuming that it is the way.
The “Mind the Gap” session that took place on the 12th of September, has evolved me not only spiritually, but holistically, mentally. Generally, the Girls Lunch has equipped all of us to a point of removing all boundaries from our mental and emotional walls.
I have personally become a better person, acknowledging my inner critic, and ensuring that I do not allow it to rent space in my soul, body, or mind. I have become accountable for all my actions and consistent in my deliverables to ensuring that I never forget my worth.
The topic led by Zinzi Faba meant a lot to me because I have always known that I am gifted in dreams and the spiritual realm of discernment, but I never gave it the attention it required. Getting the opportunity to learn more about the alignment of the planets linked to astrology, how to handle my discernment of energy around people and exploring my dreams and building my spiritual being.
Signs from the heavens
Our heritage speaks to the rituals, traditions, and customs we forge as a community and with ourselves. On Saturday we stepped out of the topic of “being in community” into the “embodied self”. I think it is no coincidence that this occurred right in the middle of heritage month.
Representation is key. For me what personified a sense of belonging was receiving wisdom and knowledge from Zinzi Faba, a black female Astrologer. It was more than just reading about the stars and cosmos at the back of the newspaper and magazine or googling zodiac signs. She provided deep spiritual insights.
One of the most powerful lessons of the Mind Gap Workshop and the bridge to transforming ourselves is: that the mind is a bridge between visible and invisible reality. The mind has all the stories true and untrue. We can notice with our emotions, which we learnt is energy in motion. Emotions are like water, it flows but doesn’t come back. In the same way we should just acknowledge our emotions and release them. The invitation to observe our feelings resonated deeply with me.
As young professionals in our twenties we are learning the principle of creating wealth through the things that we value. We are anticipating or experiencing the forthcoming Saturn Return where our wisdom, mastery and maturity is tested. These are the years where we bid farewell to our youthful innocence and say hello astrological adulting. I stand confident that the Girls’ Lunch Cohort has equipped us with the necessary guidance and nothing short of amazing will come of it.
A Virtual Celebration of African Heritage
It is 12 September 2020 under the beautiful African Skies which meant the 60 young ladies from different parts of the country were eagerly preparing for the second virtual session of the Girls Cohort under the novel coronavirus restrictions. It is 10 am and the ladies start joining the zoom meeting, as soon as the screens turn on one is immediately met by beautiful faces and a cultural diversity represented by traditional attires from Isizulu, Pedi, isiXhosa, Sotho etc.
The reason behind the colourful screens is to create an ambience of heritage. In the South African calendar September is celebrated as heritage month. A month when the African child is encouraged to celebrate and embrace their true origin. As a child of the Africa soul.
The theme of the session was The Embodied Self which coach Nothemba in her clarified in her introduction by asking the question: “What does it mean to occupy and care for one’s body?” We were then sent to seven breakaway rooms for an hour of check-in with each other. This happened effortlessly with no technical issues. Those who did experience glitches, they were related to individual network issues.
The guest speaker Zinzi Faba is a qualified astrologist with Merit at Cynthia Thorburn School of Astrology. Zinzi is a dream language and symbolism specialist. She is a qualified Yogi instructor, a traditional healer and most importantly a change agent. She showed up so authentically for us!
Attendance was good and there was active participation during the question time and during self-reflection breakaway sessions. By now all we all know the Zoom protocols, especially being in a quiet and audible space which shows respect and dedication, but also the welcoming warmth into each other’s homes. There was also an energetic social media presence with the sharing and resharing of the traditional attires images on social platforms to promote the brand of the Girls Lunch Programme but to also embrace our cultural diversity and heritage. We finished at 14h00, exactly on time!